tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263229920769351882024-03-20T11:09:23.412+01:00Love HappensUnderstanding the Dynamics of Loving RelationshipsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-75303436783188860412016-05-13T11:17:00.000+01:002016-05-13T11:17:14.934+01:005 THINGS THAT COULD DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP (part 4)<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">4.
EGO AND PRIDE</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Everyone has a
sense of pride and ego. It is a part of our human nature and it is beneficial
as well as destructive if not effectively managed. We feel a sense of pride when
we’ve accomplished something, whether we are celebrated for it or not. Ego is a
sense of self-importance but this can easily become a feeling of superiority,
which is negative.In this blog ego and pride will be used interchangeably because
they have the same effects in any relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In a relationship,
pride and ego are detrimental and unhealthy. It hinders progress and the
general feeling of contentment and happiness one should derive from being in a
loving relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A proud person sees
himself (or herself) as perfect. They don’t believe they can do wrong;
everything they say is right, their ideas are the best, everyone else has a
problem but they do not. This makes them critical and arrogant. Don’t try to
correct a proud person; they can’t hear you. They rarely take responsibility
for their actions, they pass blames instead.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ego makes a person defensive in a
conversation; rather than listen to the feelings of their partner they focus on
absorbing themselves of any guilt or blame. Their ego is hurt at the slightest
indication that they might be anything but perfect. Pride will never let them
admit that they were wrong or even apologize for their error or fault. “I’m
sorry” are words rarely heard from the lips of a proud person. This doesn’t
always mean that they do not think they did something wrong, they’d rather not
admit it unless, apologizing, somehow makes them look like the bigger person. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Proud people feel
self-sufficient; they think they don’t need anything from anyone and they don’t
need anyone, if only that were true. A relationship is for interdependence;
both parties relying on the each other for support, help, comfort and care. If one
person decides to be completely independent of the other, the relationship
fails. If one party depends completely on the other, giving nothing back, the
relationship fails.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When a person’s ego
is bruised they find it hard to forgive. They want to prove that they are not
to be trifled with.They would definitely seek revenge-believe it. ‘If I let
this person go’ they say, ‘then people will think I’m weak, I have to prove
that I am not, I will teach them a lesson’. Pride is an indication of low
self-esteem and a week self-image. Proud people are insecure, that’s why they
are arrogant and act irrational and destructive when they feel jealous.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A relationship
driven by ego will make both parties resort to playing games; no one wants to
be the first to talk or call back after a couples quarrel because then they
will lose and their partner will have all the power, they are both waiting on
the other person to take the first step.Ego keeps people in a bad relationship;
they rather suffer than let people think they failed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The holy bible
says: “Pride comes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall”
(Proverbs 16:18). Ego profits nothing. It builds walls between you and your
partner. While you are trying not to look weak or lose, you are isolating
yourself.You might win that fight but you will lose your peace and your partner
if you don’t swallow your pride. There’s a need to surrender and let love lead
rather than pride. Pride says: ‘what will people think’, love says: ‘I lose so
we can win’. Do you want to win only to lose love or do you want to let love
win? Your choice!</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-77965371393567990222016-05-09T12:13:00.000+01:002016-05-09T12:13:04.086+01:005 THINGS THAT COULD DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP (part 3)<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<b><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif";">3</span>.
UNFORGIVENESS</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">It is highly
improbable for two individuals to engage in any form of interaction without the
slightest occurrence of disagreement, misunderstanding, conflict and offense
hence a need for forgiveness. The path that leads to mutual understanding and
harmony amongst two individuals is paved with friction and conflict. It is
unavoidable and extremely necessary.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">These disagreements
occur because of human differences; you differ in many ways from your partner
and these differences become more evident as close relationships are formed.
However these minor conflicts help us understand our partners better; we learn
what is not acceptable and what gets them upset and because we love them, we
avoid it. We learn how they react to different situations as they occur.
Disagreements give room for negotiations and synergy. Disagreements could
easily result in offense, depending on how it is handled. When offenses arise,
feelings get hurt and the only healthy response to hurt is forgiveness.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">According to Niyi Osadare,
“People are more vulnerable with people they love. They let their guard down
and remove their defenses so that they can freely express the love they feel
for their partner”. The closest people to us can hurt us and break us the most
because with them we are weak, with them we are safe and our hearts have learnt
to trust them. Those you love will most certainly hurt you. Whether they
intended to or not. However, if someone you love and who claims to love you
deliberately hurts you, you might have to reconsider your decision to be in
that relationship.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When a loved one
hurts us we feel confused; we wonder, ‘how could they do this’, ‘but I trusted
them’, we might even feel betrayed. Because we love our partner we may decide
to talk it over with them, hoping they’d understand and apologize for their
wrongs, but this may not be the case, which could cause more pain. We could
decide not to tell our partner how we feel because we feel that they would not
understand how much they hurt us and based on past experiences they may not
even apologize. All these feelings could lead to grudge, resentment, the end of
your relationship and/or revenge. But all these are negative response to being
hurt because they affect the offended more than the offender. The only healthy
response to being hurt as we said earlier is forgiveness. </span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Grudge affects communication,
expression of love and intimacy in a relationship. It could easily lead to
bitterness, hatred, animosity and unhappiness. When couples keeps scores and
hold grudges, their relationship will implode.It is advisable that couples talk
openly to their partners about the hurt they feel in their hearts as a result
of what their partner did or is doing or seek help from a third party-a
counselor or therapist- that help both parties and led them to wholeness and
healing or end the relationship.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness is a
decision to let go of a hurt or offense and revenge. In other words it is a
choice. You can choose to or not to forgive. However, it is important to note
the following:</span></div>
<br />
<ul>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness doesn’t mean you no
longer feel hurt</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have
lost your memory and completely forgot about the offense. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the
relationship would continue or be restored. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness is not a favor to your
partner but a necessity for you.</span></li>
<li>
<span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness precedes healing.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Your partner might never apologize
or realize their error</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Revenge cannot change what has
happened, it will not correct the error done to you, and it will not soothe the
pain you feel inside. It doesn’t bring healing.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">As humans, it is
only natural to seek justifications for our actions; we want reasonable
explanations. ‘If she apologizes, then I will forgive her’ you say, ‘He has
changed so I think I should forgive him’. These are reasons that make our
partner qualified for our forgiveness but they are not reasons enough to
forgive. We forgive because if we don’t we keep ourselves in bondage, we stay
unhappy and we can affect our health. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Unforgiveness is not your right and
forgiveness is not a privilege or favor you are doing your partner; forgiveness
is for you. Besides who gets to stay awake hurt and grumpy-you, who gets to
spend time and years planning revenge-you, who gets to relive the experience of
the over and over again? You guessed it-you. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Even if you were not offended by
your partner but you are holding a grudge against someone for something they
did in the past, you will affect your relationship by making your partner
suffer for what someone else did. Do yourself and your relationship a favor and
forgive.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">2. SELFISHNESS</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">“What about me?”
“What’s in it for me?” “That’s not what I want”, these are the declarations of
a selfish person. Their world is made up of three creatures, Me, Myself and I.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Selfish people are
consumed by their importance. They often do not notice or regard the needs of
their partner. They believe that the relationship is there to attend to their
needs and their partner is meant to satisfy their every desire. The relationship
and their partner is a means to an end and a tool for personal gratification. A
selfish partner does not realize that they are selfish and therefore telling
them won’t amount to much, instead it may cause the other party pain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Selfish partners
don’t go out of their way for the benefit of their relationship if it doesn’t serve
their personal goal; which could be to prove that they care or to manipulate
their partner to return the favor in the future. Keep in mind that they are not
aware of this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Selfishness
destroys relationships over time. It might take a while to identify but it is a
sure way to end a loving relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">That a person is
selfish doesn’t mean that they do not love or care about their partner it just
means that they are self-absorbed. In their view they make compromises for their
relationship and they go out of their way to meet their partner’s needs. That’s
why they do not understand their partner’s complains concerning their behavior
and might perceive their partner to be too demanding and inconsiderate and in
most cases selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Selfish people
expect their partner to change their taste and preference to suit them. They
demand that things go their way often. Some selfish people are control-freaks
and master manipulators. They expect their partner to pay attention to their
needs and wants, to understand them and proffer solutions, while they do little
or nothing to reciprocate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">You often notice a
selfish person mindlessly exhausting the family budget without much thought as it regards the sustenance and survival of their family thereafter. They expect that
when their partner discovers their action, they should be understood and there should be no consequence whatsoever. They do not take responsibility
for their actions. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A selfish person would rarely consult their partner before
making major decisions; they expect their partner to go along with whatever
they decide.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Selfishness starts
from self-indulgence. One who is accustomed to always saying what’s on their
mind without taking into consideration the feelings of the other person. A
person who does what they want, how they want, when they want, is focused only
on themselves. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Don’t expect a selfish person to suddenly change their actions
(because it is part of their personality); it might require a significant
experience to bring them to the reality that the world does not revolve around
them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A relationship is a
partnership; both parties need to be mutually invested in its survival and
success. When one party is always asking, demanding, expecting and receiving
and the other party is just giving, giving and giving, the relationship ends up
one sided and out of balance.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Are your thoughts
filled with ‘I’ and ‘me’ rather than ‘we’? Then you are probably acting
selfishly and you are hurting your partner and relationship.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: "berlin sans fb" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">If your partner is
selfish, this is probably hurting you. You may not have voiced how you
feel-probably because they don’t give the opportunity and you end up feeling
hurt, but you cannot let them continue to put you through pain. Worse still, you
shouldn’t enable their behavior because this will be detrimental to your
relationship in the long run. If you are the selfish one, you need to have a
serious conversation with yourself and come to terms with the effect of your behavior
before you lose your partner.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">1. LIES</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A lie is a
statement contrary to a known fact, told with intent to deceive. People lie for
various reasons; some lie because they feel it is safer for their relationship,
some others use lies to manipulate their partner and others assume they are
protecting their partner from the painful truth when in reality they are
protecting themselves. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Think about it for
a moment; think about the last time you lied, why did you do it? You probably
thought that if you told your partner the truth they would think of you
differently, they might overreact, they might end the relationship and the
classic one- they cannot handle the truth. Notice the pattern? All the reasons
revolve around you and that is often selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lies affect trust
which is the foundation of any healthy relationship. When a person knows or
perceives he/she has been lied to, they find it difficult to believe what is
said to them afterwards. Even when they have forgiven the "liar", there are still
unresolved questions in their heart and the impression that their partner is a
liar and cannot be trusted.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lies hurt both the
teller and the told. If you tell a lie to your partner and they find out they
feel hurt and betrayed and wonder why you cannot trust them but, it doesn’t end
there. Because they are struggling to trust you, they would act it out even
when you are being honest and that would hurt your feelings.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lies generally fall
into two categories, lies of commission and lies of omission. So far we have
been discussing lie of commission; which is basically stating something that
isn’t true. The most common lie of commission is what we call ‘white lie’.
Little fibs we tell to spare our partner’s feelings. Like telling him he looks
great in those jeans when he doesn’t or telling her she isn’t putting on weight
when she clearly is. Although most people subscribe to white lie, it is still a
lie. You can still disclose a painful detail without hurting your partner; if
you do so with caution, consideration and sensitivity.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lie of omission
however, is deliberately withholding necessary details or information when
telling the truth also known as half-truth. It could also be avoiding a
conversation or question because you do not want to lie, using “you did not
ask” as a defense. Information withheld could become secrets the longer they
are hidden from your partner. A half-truth can be a misrepresentation of a fact;
you did not lie, you did not withhold or avoid the truth but you skipped some
details. This gives your partner a different perspective of what the truth is
and because you know the truth you would not correct the conclusions or
misconception they derived from you misinformation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lies are a heavy
burden for the culprit; an enormous amount of work is put in to preserve the
lie and prevent the truth from coming to light. A lie naturally requires more
lies to protect its authenticity.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Every relationship
would do well if it is built on trust. There cannot be love without trust and
lying affects that. Lying implies you don’t trust your partner enough to be
open with him/her. This affects openness and vulnerability in a relationship. It
takes courage to tell the truth and not everyone has that courage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When you catch
yourself telling a lie correct yourself immediately and apologize to your
partner. It is better they feel disappointed by your attempt to lie than hurt
and violated by the discovery of the truth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Berlin Sans FB","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Lying may have
immediate benefits but it’s consequences in the years to come are more
dangerous than the truth told today.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-56739029680874324622016-02-14T09:31:00.000+01:002016-02-14T09:31:06.331+01:00SOMEWHERE OUT THERE<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;">
<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">To all those spending valentines day alone, be hopeful. this poem is dedicated to you.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">photo: from google</span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there is the man for me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The one I hold in my dreams<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Of whom I sing endless psalms and hymns.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">My charming prince,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Not on horses, in castles or of a city name<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">But of riches beyond man's measurable worth.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there is someone,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who might not be as the pictures I painted<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Not as tall as dark or as handsome;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">But his eyes so full of light,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">His soul, as bright as day <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">His spirit, mild, as of a dove.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Out there somewhere is he,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who is not ashamed to view my flaws<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And not deterred by my walls<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who knows the beauty of the soul within <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">and exalts it beyond the pearls <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">and adornments to be seen.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Is someone who cares;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who remembers my birth,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who looks past my silly mirth,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who brings me a tissue <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And sits with the box through my tears.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Is someone who will choose me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">and not consider me a hassle <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">One who will understand my myriad of rainbow colours<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">As my vibrant laughter <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">feeds his soul<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Is a man with such passion,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who is not afraid to make a decision.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A man confident in his own skin<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And assured of his life's destination.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Is the one who sees what I see<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And shares in my dreams,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who understands I am me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And delights in all that I can be.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There is surely one <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">With whom I can feel safe<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who sees me as just adequate<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Someone who is content with me alone<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">With whom I can raise a nation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Somewhere out there….<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Yes, maybe, somewhere is right here<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">But no matter how long it takes<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I still believe,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">As it is yet day, <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">He will make his way to me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">While I await my someone's arrival<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I am content to discover my potential <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">For there’s someone out there <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Believing for me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">For I too, I’m an answer to someone’s plea.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Andalus","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">For someone special and great… just like me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-29641675919391779932016-02-06T11:28:00.000+01:002016-02-06T11:28:08.089+01:00WELCOME BACK!<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">HELLO
LHD READERS,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Welcome
to LOVE HAPPENS DIARY. We wouldn’t want to start without apologizing for our
unexpected silence and assure you that we are doing all we can to ensure that
your experience with us this year is pleasant.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Did you
know that Love happens diary is one year this month? Which means it is a new
season for us and what better time to come back than in the month of love?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">At LHD,
we are still and always committed to helping you build a lasting loving
relationship and we want to be your companion as you navigate through the uncertainties
of starting and sustaining a loving relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">We
officially welcome you to the year 2016 and to a new and better blog. Expect
new and exciting things this year on LHD, here’s the first one: LHD is
introducing “LOVE TIPS”. These are short words of advice on how to start and
improve your loving relationship. Every month has a theme and the theme for
this month is, LISTEN. Exciting right? That’s not all, LHD is going on
INSTAGRAM. As we said, we are committed to your relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Visit
us our blog daily, as well as on facebook, twitter and instagram for more
exciting surprises.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "andalus" , "serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">HAVE A
GREAT 2016.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-26394216369741744802015-06-02T10:25:00.000+01:002015-06-03T09:20:16.614+01:00BEFORE I MET YOU<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Before I met you, I was me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">I learned to walk on
sinking sand,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">To wipe my tears with my
own hand,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">To speak at the walls
until they heard:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">I am me and always will
be.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">When you met me, I was me,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">You loved that I was on my
feet,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">And that I could see above
the trees.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">You coated your lips with
stories of my dreams<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Then I believed you’d hold
my light<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">I had wished my throne be
on your side<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">And that my court be set
upon the hills, <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">That you’d lend me a
shoulder to see the view<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">And sing my beauty upon
the streets<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">But with three words you
demanded my life<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">“I love you” put up walls
of brass<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">The gate fortified with
your ego and pride</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">My wings trapped beneath your endless desires.</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">You had me crucified on
your insecurity<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">I had built my faith on
your words of charity<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">You stumped on my worth
and sense of purity<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">In you, love has found its
cold grip.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Before you met me I was me<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">So now I take back my
authority<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">I feed my soul with courage<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">To take my pieces from
your paws.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Rather than ask that I
leave me behind,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Paint a picture that
includes my dreams<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif";">Let me be the author of my
destiny<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Andalus, serif;">Then you can stand tall,
next to me</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-26536752273769836002015-05-28T11:01:00.000+01:002015-05-28T11:01:00.099+01:00DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES 2<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Weeks ago, we started looking at the series <a href="http://lovehappensdiary.blogspot.com/2015/04/dealing-with-differences_17.html">DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES.</a> We discovered that difference in spending habits could affect
a relationship. Though it took me a while to continue this series –for which I
apologize- here is another factor that can affect our relationship and/or
our home.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">LIFE
GOALS<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><i>Simply put, your life goal(s) is what you want
out of life: what you hope to achieve and what you want your life to amount to
in the end. </i>If you fast-forward your life to when you are 70, 80 or 90, what do
you see? How would you want your life to be then? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Most of you might think that this is pretty
straightforward; who wants to spend their life with someone who doesn’t want
the same life as they do or one that is closest at the least? I know (for a
fact) that there are people in committed relationships with someone who does
not share their view and perspective about life and the way they want to live
it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">What we are talking about here is not shared
hubbies or interests but dreams and desires. Imagine a man whose desire is to
support everyone in his community with the resources and opportunities to get a
better life. He struggled to get all he acquired today and he hopes that
someday he would make it easier for someone else to achieve their dream. This
man falls in love with someone who does not believe it is her responsibility to
cater for anyone outside her immediate family. She believes all her hard work
is an inheritance for her children and anyone else will be just fine if they worked
as hard. These two individuals have good philosophies but they should not
ideally start a family together unless one of them is willing to give up their dream.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">This ‘life goals thing’ is real tricky. It
covers how we want to raise our kids, where we want to live, how we want to
live out our gray years and sometimes how we want to die and so much more. The
challenge is you could want something in your twenties and not want it in your
thirties, forties or even seventies. Something could have happened that made
you change your perspective. Maybe your dreams were probably unrealistic and
life has taught you what you want. One
thing is certain; <b>everyone is allowed to
change</b>. So, what do you do if you started a life with someone with the same
goal as you and later they changed their mind and preference? That is a tough
one and we will get to it later.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">WHAT TO DO……? WHAT TO DO……?<o:p></o:p></span></u></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Your partner is someone you want with you for
life (I hope). When your kids are gone to live their independent lives, when
you have retired, when you are old and gray, that person is who you chose to
walk through the rest of your life. Imagine how frustrating it will be for you
if all you are doing is arguing whether to travel or not to, to start a study
group or relocate to the suburbs; this can be easily avoided. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Andalus, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 150%;">While you are considering a choice of a partner,
it is advisable to discuss: what you both want out of life, how you would want
to raise your kids (if they want kids in the first place), your dream job (if
you do not have it yet), your plan for your retirement years, where you want to
live and so on. While you are at it, throw in your plan for the next 5 to 10
years and try to find out what your partner wants too (I use partner because I
do not know what label you have put on your relationship, it can be boyfriend,
friend, fiancé etc).</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">It is also likely that you do not know what you
might want in 3 decades or more, that’s totally understandable-life is a
process of discovery and if you not know it now, you will know it soon or later
(there are couple of books that could help you through this journey of self
discovery, try to get them). You could decide to wait until you are sure of
what you want out of life before you pick a life partner. Or you could come
clean (if you are already ‘in love’) and let your partner know that you are on
a journey of self-discovery, if you are lucky, he/she would want to go with you
on that journey.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">Now to
the toughie, you are already married to the love of your life except he mostly does
not want the same things you want or maybe you both wanted the same things but
somehow your spouse has changed. I saw a TV program recently, this couple got
married wanting almost the same things--they had a few issues to work out but
for the most part, they wanted the same life—they had the same career, they
shared a desire to live independent of parental pressure and they wanted a
family together. About a year later, they suffered a huge loss-an unborn child.
The woman took the loss pretty hard and decided to take up another job outside the
city they lived, the husband hated the decision but he supported her anyway
because she promised it was part time. Well, part-time became a year and a year
became a change in life plan and a divorce suit.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Andalus","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 150%;">What am
I saying? As you would have guessed from the story, anything can change along
the way. Now, I am not a fan of divorce, I come from a home where couples make
things work. Therefore, I will not ask you to quit your marriage and walk away
from your family. Secondly, I do not know you personally, nor am I aware of the
difficulties you might be facing in your marriage or family. So, I am not in
the best position to tell you what to do or suggest what will work but, I will
suggest that you find a counselor or therapist closest to you and sort things
out now before it gets out of hand.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-73335680476424703772015-05-07T23:28:00.001+01:002016-02-13T01:07:41.275+01:00LOVE?<div class="s2" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<div class="s4" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<br /></div>
</div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">I </span><span class="s5">don't</span><span class="s5"> know the first thing about love</span><span class="s5">.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">I hear to love </span><span class="s5">is to give</span><span class="s5">.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">So I as</span><span class="s5">k</span><span class="s5">ed:</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">What am</span><span class="s5"> I</span><span class="s5"> to</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">give?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">If I </span><span class="s5">gave</span><span class="s5"> you all </span><span class="s5">I have acquired</span><span class="s5">;</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">At the </span><span class="s5">wh</span><span class="s5">iff</span><span class="s5"> of your endless desire</span><span class="s5">s</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">But </span><span class="s5">laced</span><span class="s5"> every gift</span><span class="s5"> with</span><span class="s5"> double meaning</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Has m</span><span class="s5">y </span><span class="s5">love then been affi</span><span class="s5">rmed</span><span class="s5">?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">And if I </span><span class="s5">hopelessly </span><span class="s5">gave without </span><span class="s5">intention,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">But</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">all my gestures failed in </span><span class="s5">comparison to your </span><span class="s5">expectation</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Is my love then inadequate?</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">How</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">can I give when I am</span><span class="s5"> in need?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">And</span><span class="s5"> if we all gave</span><span class="s5"> who</span><span class="s5"> then</span><span class="s5"> receives?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<br /></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">I </span><span class="s5">don’t</span><span class="s5"> know a lot about loving</span><span class="s5">.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">T</span><span class="s5">hey said love is ever forgiving</span><span class="s5">;</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Taking no record of wrong doing </span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">and</span><span class="s5"> seeking </span><span class="s5">no revenge for </span><span class="s5">transgressions.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Then I thought within myself</span><span class="s5">:</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Am</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">I </span><span class="s5">to ignore</span><span class="s5"> you</span><span class="s5">r lack of</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">repenta</span><span class="s5">nce</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">And</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">welcome you into my confidence?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">And if I forgave you of the hurt</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">But</span><span class="s5"> withhold my </span><span class="s5">acts of kindness and warmth,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Is</span><span class="s5"> my love </span><span class="s5">then</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">justified</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">What if </span><span class="s5">I forgave you what I </span><span class="s5">could</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">But framed the memories of </span><span class="s5">my wounds</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Would it</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">be</span><span class="s5"> accounted unt</span><span class="s5">o me as love?</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">What</span><span class="s5"> if</span><span class="s5"> I loved but</span><span class="s5"> never forgave?</span></span></div>
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<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I do not really know,</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">So</span><span class="s5"> I ask rather than assume,</span></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">And</span><span class="s5"> </span><span class="s5">they say</span><a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
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<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">To love is to share</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">To cut my portion in half</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Mine is yours and yours</span><span class="s5"> is</span><span class="s5"> mine</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">To open up my habitation</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">My sacred world is now our sanctuary</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">So</span><span class="s5"> I began to wonder:</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">What if </span><span class="s5">I unveiled my </span><span class="s5">yesterday</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">And you shut the door on our </span><span class="s5">tomorrow</span><span class="s5">?</span><span class="s5">;</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">The darkness of </span><span class="s5">it’s</span><span class="s5"> reality</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
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<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Caused you to bury the hopes of our destiny.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">What</span><span class="s5"> benefit then has sharing</span><span class="s5">?</span></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">So many things they say about love</span><span class="s5">;</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">To love is to be truly</span><span class="s5"> trusting</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">To </span><span class="s5">be patiently enduring.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">They say love is to sacrifice</span><span class="s5">;</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Me for you and you for me,</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">A calling to be less of self</span><span class="s5">.</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">I am</span><span class="s5"> unsure of what it all means</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
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<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">I </span><span class="s5">was once told</span><span class="s5"> love is friendship;</span></span></div>
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<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Equals walking in understanding,</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">A relationship built </span><span class="s5">on loyalty,</span></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Com</span><span class="s5">mitment, care and individuality,</span></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Again</span><span class="s5"> I need clarit</span><span class="s5">y.</span></span></div>
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<span class="s5">They say love is endless and without condition</span><span class="s5">,</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It is divine and void of contention</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">So many things people have to say, </span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5"><br /></span></span>
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Oh so many things I wish I knew</span><span class="s5">,</span></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">But</span><span class="s5"> forever the question remains,</span></span></div>
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<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">What then is love?</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">All, a few, or none of these?</span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">Don't</span><span class="s5"> ask me,</span></span></div>
<div class="s6" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
<span class="s5" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I only know what they said.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-50680675361667954892015-05-04T11:46:00.001+01:002015-05-14T00:47:47.940+01:00FORGIVE ME<div class="s10" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: start;">
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For thinking you were different and you would understand.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for not seeing you in your true light,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For choosing to believe the outrage of your acts over </span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-style: italic;">the whispers of my heart.</span></span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for dreaming my tomorrow with you firmly in it,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For hoping that the world I see will be a reality for you and me.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for wanting to change the world for you,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For willing to go through every battle and war with you.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for taking you at your word,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">And believing every lie,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For accepting your rainbow of colours,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">When all I could see was black and white.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for putting you on a pedestal, a place no other man could touch,</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s13" style="font-style: italic;">And for believing in our tender moments and your soft </span><span class="s13" style="font-style: italic;">touch .</span></span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for believing in the simplicity of your heart,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For accepting your every flaw and knick knacks.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me for taking this long to see,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Just how very wrong you are for me.</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">For hoping for a miracle, </span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Anything to keep you with me.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-style: italic;">Forgive me for holding your dreams in my prayers,</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s13" style="font-style: italic;">And for delighting in those</span><span class="s13" style="font-style: italic;"> little glances of reassurance.</span></span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Forgive me if I choose not to stay,</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s13" style="font-style: italic;">To not dwell on the hurts that you have caused.</span><a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a></span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">But I pray thee if you cannot forgive anything else,</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Please forgive my heart, for it has strayed</span></div>
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<span class="s13" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-style: italic;">Back to where it should have been…away from you</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-16028864390517315062015-05-01T22:06:00.001+01:002015-05-01T22:06:53.345+01:00QUESTIONS PEOPLE ASK<div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Hello LHD readers,</span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></div><div>Lots of people have sent in their question and they would love your help in tackling the little challenges and issues they are presently facing in their relationship. You can add your opinion as a comment under this post, please indicate the question you are responding to. Kindly note that, as always, we keep the names of our readers anonymous unless they request otherwise. </div><div>You ready? Let’s go!</div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 1: </b></div><div><b><br></b></div><div><i>Dear LHD,</i></div><div><i>“If the guy you are ‘involved with’ refuses to trust you and doesn’t even let you visit other guys, is it right to continue that kind of relationship?”</i></div><div><br></div><div><u>Answer</u></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Life is full of people with their own issues. When we are choosing to be or remain in a relationship, it must be because we can both manage to live with each other’s issue. When we cannot, it is necessary to bring to an end the relationship.</span></div><div>If a guy does not trust you, it may be because he has trust issues, or feel insecure about you or your desire to spend time with other guys. Ask yourself, is there a way you conduct yourself around guys that he doesn’t like? Have you had something unpleasant to do with other guys in the past that you told him about and he still remembers? Is he uncomfortable because any of those other guys is interested in you?</div><div>If after being truthful to yourself you realize that it has nothing to do with you at all, and it is just him being jealous, high handed over protective self, there are 3 things you can do.</div><div>a.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Talk to him sincerely about how you feel and give him an opportunity to speak also</div><div>b.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Give him an opportunity to change without pressure from you.</div><div>c.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>If you have done the above and he hasn’t changed, then it might be time to end the relationship.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 2:</b> </div><div><br></div><div>“<i>Is it right to leave a person you love for another person because of money? If this person gives you the money you need to care for yourself, helps your parents financially and is also mature and serious for marriage?”</i></div><div><i><br></i></div><div><u>Answer</u> <span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">There are many dilemmas in life and many of the options you face in life are not necessarily pleasant.</span></div><div>Your question has many possible answers.</div><div>Is it right to leave a person you love? Well the answer can be yes or no. it is “no” when the person loves you back, then love is built on the right assumption and decision, and you both plan to make the relationship permanent and have the potential to make that happen. However, if that is not the case and the relationship is not defined, and you both are unsure, then you are at liberty to leave upon a mutual agreement.</div><div>If it is because of money you are planning to leave, then you may need to pause a bit.</div><div>Ask yourself are there other qualities he has that are desirable to you and that you can live with?</div><div> You mentioned he is mature and, serious. I would like to ask; if he has all these qualities and you can relate with his maturity and seriousness, is it the type of relationship you want; does he have genuine interest in you beyond helping you, does he listen to you and you both have conversations about the future? Or he just sees you as a little girl he is making a wife out of?</div><div>If you can relate with him and he with you, and you choose to leave your first relationship then you can start another relationship with him.</div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 3: </b></div><div><b><br></b></div><div><i>“I have a friend who loved this girl so much that it was too obvious to everyone. He asked the girl but she started taking advantage of him and become demanding. She didn’t say yes or no to his request. What should he do?”</i></div><div><br></div><div><u>Answer</u> </div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Hmm, something is out of place in this picture. The boy loves and cares about the girl, and he is doing everything to convince her to do the same, unfortunately, it isn’t the same for the lady.</span></div><div>Life is full of choices and decisions. It is evident she isn’t interested yet, but, he is blinded by his desire and affection for her. He needs to make up his mind and stop, but, can he do that?</div><div>It is highly immature for the girl to begin to take advantage of the guy’s interest and begin to demand expensive things; it shows that if the relationship starts it may not or will not be built on a foundation that can stand.</div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 4: </b></div><div><b><br></b></div><div><i>“Girls know when a guy has feelings for them but they take advantage and start demanding. I would like to understand why.”</i></div><div><br></div><div><u>Answer</u> </div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">This is similar in some ways to question 3 above. Everyone takes advantage of another when they do not know better. When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is imminent.</span></div><div>The purpose of someone caring for you is to make you ask yourself a question; do I care for this person also? If the care is not mutual, it is time to let the person go.</div><div>If the care is mutual and it is healthy, it is time to interact, discuss and create room to understand each other.</div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 5</b></div><div><i>“Why is it that women are so full of emotions and men are emotionless?”</i></div><div><br></div><div><u>Answer</u> </div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Everyone has emotions, both men and women. However, women are said to be emotional than men because they are more expressive of their emotions than men are.</span></div><div>Depending on several factors including: personality, self -awareness, personal choices and family background, men tend to express some or no emotions at all. However, with time they do. </div><div>Men need to be taught to have a role model and mentored on how to safely express their emotions, and then they would do it more often.</div><div><br></div><div><b>QUESTION 6: </b></div><div><b><br></b></div><div><i>“When you have unknowingly led someone on and you realize you have, how do you go about setting the records straight without coming off as rejecting the person? And is it advisable to still keep the friendship? I guess what I am asking is; how do I tell her I just want to be friends when she thinks otherwise?</i></div><div><br></div><div><u>Answer</u> </div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Well the only way to do it is to tell her. Tell her with sincerity and apologize sincerely for the past. However, you need to accept that her response is her choice. She may choose to continue or not to continue to be friends with you and you need to be willing to accept that.</span></div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>Do you have a question you would like an answer to? Do you need advice on how to go about challenges you are facing in your relationship? Then ask us. You can send it as a message on our Facebook page-LOVE HAPPENS DIARY or you can send a mail to lovehappensinfo@gmail.com. </div><div><br></div><div>Keep loving!!!</div><div><br></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-74944949656730763122015-04-17T10:25:00.000+01:002015-05-28T07:05:28.529+01:00DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES<div class="separator" style="clear: both;">
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We’ve all read that book or seen that movie; a rich girl falls for a not-so-rich guy, the prince is in love with a slave, a Christian married a Jew or a Muslim, the mobster and the Christian girl………..and the list goes on. If you are a “hopeless romantic” like me, you probably rooted for the lovebirds and cursed on the parents that kept them away because you believed that love should know no boundaries or societal differences or religion or status or whatever, love should conquer all of that and in the movie it does; the girl leaves everything behind, gets disowned by the rich father and moves in with the boy and his parents. </div>
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Hello…. Producer… Director…. Playwright… Whoever made this movie! You forgot to tell us what happens next, happily ever after is too vague, can someone please follow the couple with the camera? What happens now? Does the princess get a job? Is the Christian girl gonna leave her faith? How are they gonna raise their kids in this economy? What happens when tough times come? Hello! Anybody? Nobody huh? Figures! Nobody tells us what happens next.</div>
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I am firm believer in love and its ability to overcome the greatest challenges possible, so I am not insinuating that two people from “different worlds” cannot fall in love, get married and have a happy life-they can and you can too! But what happens when love no longer seems enough? What do we do then?</div>
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Whenever two individuals come together there will most likely be challenges. This is because they have lived different lives until they met and have developed different habits, preferences, way of life etc.</div>
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Differences are beneficial to all relationships; two exactly alike individual may not make a good couple.</div>
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Most relationships fail because partners did not pay enough attention to the potentially challenging situations that could cause irreconcilable differences in the future. They were too in love to pay attention until it became difficult.</div>
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Over the next few weeks, we will look at common differences between couples that could evolve and destroy relationships if not properly managed. These factors, are not listed or explained in any particular order. Let’s start with the first one:</div>
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Most couples I know had a hard time talking about money, a simple question like how much do you earn? Can almost break up a dating couple and if this isn’t dealt with before marriage it turns into fights over bills, a new couch and leads to divorce. Yes! Money matters lead to divorce in most cases. Why? Because money is not only material or tangible it is also personal and emotional. People react defensively because money sometimes reflects on the perception of their esteem and self worth.</div>
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When it comes to dealing with money, we all fall under two major categories either ‘the saver’ or ’the spendthrift’. The saver buys only the things he/she absolutely needs, almost never incurs debt, has a good amount reserved for the future and is not an impulsive buyer. The spendthrift on the other hand is an impulsive buyer, most likely full of debt and acquiring more, has little or nothing saved up for the rainy day. </div>
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To protect your family and avert the distance that money can create, learn how to talk about money matters. Be open to your partner about your spending style, work towards an agreement on what each will contribute financially, agree on your financial goals and plans for the future. This may sound unlikely but you need to discuss every detail, down to who pays the bills and when, who buys food, who pays fees, what percentage is saved etc. it is also advisable for a couple run a joint account for family purposes if they agree to it.</div>
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Have you ever been in a relationship you knew had run its course but you were waiting on the other person to leave first? Or maybe you both knew it was time to quit but you just kept postponing it? <br />
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<i>I remember a couple who had been together 9yrs, both had made up their minds that this relationship was never gonna work, they knew they didn’t want to spend their lives with the other person (and this wasn’t because the other person was mean, it just wasn’t right) they kept dropping hints for a whole year hoping the other person will get the hint and leave. It’s been a year now and they haven’t officially broken things off, how interesting.</i><br />
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If you think that story wasn’t clear enough, here’s another;<br />
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<i>A close friend has been on an off-again-on-again relationship with her high school sweetheart, for most of their relationship they were apart so they learnt to lead separate lives. The girl feels she’s a different person from when they met and she needs to leave the relationship but she feels she will hurt the boy’s feelings so, what does she do? She starts to provoke him and upset him intentionally just to get him to leave first; there’s nothing she hasn’t done, but the guy hasn’t left her yet.<br />
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There are so many examples and scenarios I could share with you but it is the same outcome, these couples are playing “Relationship Chicken” have you heard of that before? Well, I have and it even has a definition just click <a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Relationship+chicken">here</a> to find out what urban dictionary says about it.<br />
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“When a relationship has no future or next step and should ideally end but, the parties involved refuses to end it sincerely but rather resort to games and pranks to manipulate the other party to end the relationship, this couple is playing RELATIONSHIP CHICKEN.”<br />
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This kind of relationship is displayed in movies alot; my favorite is the TV series 'How i met you mother'. <br />
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<b>WHY PEOPLE PLAY CHICKEN</b><br />
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I have discerned and inferred by watching relationships around me and mine (yes I said it, I played chicken) that there are five reasons why people play “chicken”<br />
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1. Consideration: when only one party wants to leave they may hesitate out of considerations for the other person’s feelings.<br />
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2. Fear: No one likes to start afresh, leaving the known for the unknown can be scary. Holding on is safe because it means you’re not alone.<br />
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3. Emotions: Because the relationship has run its course doesn’t mean you have stopped loving each other (if you were actually in love). The pain of letting go could also cause a couple to chicken-out, but it is not enough reason to stay.<br />
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4. No other option: Some wait for the next guy or girl to come along before they can leave; they don’t wanna leave one for nothing. People you aren’t changing a tires, you don’t have to wait for next person to come along.<br />
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5. Pride: I hear people say “I can’t be the one to break it off” or “I don’t wanna be the bad guy”. This is pride because the only reason for holding on is to preserve your image or in some cases to prove a point.<br />
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<b>THE CHICKEN IS THE YARD</b><br />
How do you know you are playing chicken?<br />
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1. There is no plan for the future: the focus is on leaving the relationship and not living their lives together. This couple is just going with motions.<br />
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2. Friendship is lost: you no longer spend much time together or talk to each other about little things, even making lunch plans could feel like a burden.<br />
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3. Communication is broken: conversation lacks substance, calls are sparing. This couple could go silent for weeks or months.<br />
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4. Unhappiness and frustration: no one is happy, no enthusiasm or excitement, both parties feel stuck, they can’t get out, can’t move forward or progress, they get annoyed by everything the other person says and if this goes on, frustration is bound to creep in.<br />
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5. Games and hurt: you begin hurt each other. You come up with creative ways to make the other person leave you.<br />
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Couples who play relationship chicken might feel that they are brilliant or that they are being smart but this is not true; the chicken game never ends pleasantly. Though the couple will get what they want eventually (a break up) it will come at a cost. The ‘chicken couple’ would probably never speak to each other again and they would have wasted so much time and this will make starting over with someone else harder than it would have been, so here’s my advice;<br />
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1. Have an honest conversation with your partner. This is hard but it’s the only way, really. Don’t look for reasons to leave; you might keep waiting forever. No matter what your partner says make sure you make your point about leaving and if you do…<br />
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2. Don’t just talk, end it for real! That’s right, don’t get too emotional that you makeup and continue the chicken game.<br />
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After you’ve killed the chicken, you can now make chicken soup……… LOL<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-72058445646316078112015-04-03T07:06:00.000+01:002015-04-03T07:10:26.805+01:00READY FOR LOVE?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAb5MDc9_fG-7brdrugIbboMqTMFRlPxSzoBFYq3pvWavwiLePIoaW5OJaDD78FW6pXTwYpEEB2UAskuzLPwAxL0ELeUBbw_KmU5wMfmbjUSiTo_fDotlr2HkECPpvuHu9VOnUPufrzrSy/s1600/IMG-20150402-WA0005.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAb5MDc9_fG-7brdrugIbboMqTMFRlPxSzoBFYq3pvWavwiLePIoaW5OJaDD78FW6pXTwYpEEB2UAskuzLPwAxL0ELeUBbw_KmU5wMfmbjUSiTo_fDotlr2HkECPpvuHu9VOnUPufrzrSy/s1600/IMG-20150402-WA0005.jpg" /></a><br />
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We keep waiting for love to happen to us. We go through daily life dreaming of love; when are we going to meet the ‘one’? What is it going to feel like and so on, but all we are doing is waiting and fantasizing (because a dream without action is a fantasy). We have become snow white; bound by love spells but waiting still for love (but even snow white had little helpers).<br />
We wait for love to come and sometimes it does, but we miss it or let it pass us by because we weren’t ready.<br />
Love doesn’t come only because we thought about it, or waited for it. It comes to those who prepared for it. Nothing just happens. So what do we do so we can be adequately prepared for love? Here are 5 suggestions.<br />
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1- CLEAN YOUR CLOSET: <br />
What are you holding to? What is in your possession or life that shouldn’t be? It is time to clean up! Deal with those residual feelings for the ex, the hurt from a past relationship or childhood, let all that messy stuff go. You can’t be ready for a new start until you can release the old.<br />
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2- SAY HELLO TO YOU: While waiting for love, or rather preparing for it, it is a good time to get to know yourself better, spend time with yourself, take a step back from all the drama, and be you. <a href="http://connectwomendiary.com/2015/03/28/men-o-pause/">Here</a> is a tip that could help you discover yourself during this period.<br />
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Ditch the high end expectation and fantasy, and identify really what qualities you need in a man, not the qualities that look good to have, what your friends have, or what you saw on TV, but what best suits your personality.<br />
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4- BE OPEN-MINDED: <br />
Don’t give love a colour, size and shape. You may have imagined him tall but he may not be (don’t get offended, it’s true). If we limit ourselves, we judge too quickly, we don’t look beyond the cover of the book, because he doesn’t look like it doesn’t mean he isn’t it. Take a chance on people, give them the benefit of the doubt, and you might be surprised at how well they would do.<br />
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5- DRAW THE LINE: <br />
Be open-minded but don’t also let everything come in. Since you now know who you are and what you want, identify what you don’t want. What are your boundaries? Where does the line start, where does it end? You have to know when to say NO! And when to say YES! Not everything is for you and not everyone was made for you. <br />
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6- DIVORCE DESPERATION: <br />
I know you are looking or searching for love, but ladies and gentlemen, take it down a notch. Nobody wants to hear ‘I love you’ on the first date guys. Desperation has a stench, a very repulsive one. Rather than attract people, you repel them. Don’t be too eager and impatient because then you will end up with what looks like love. Time is on your side. It’s never too late to find love no matter how old you are.<br />
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Sometimes, we are not willing to make adjustments especially when it comes to love because we find it hard to admit that we might be the one who needs change. If we adjust our lifestyle, we do it for our benefit first and only when we change, we grow and we live happier lives. <br />
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Every loving relationship has its costs; love isn’t love if it costs nothing! Love cost time, money, devotion, commitment and sometimes it cost us other love. Being in love is a decision to continually give up mine for ours and me for us, to put the needs of the relationship above yours___trust me, that’s a sacrifice!<br />
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What is the biggest decision you have ever made for love? Have you ever lost anything for love’s sake? What lengths are you willing to go for your relationship to thrive? What is the one thing you can’t do for love? Hmm… I wonder.<br />
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<b>WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SACRIFICING?</b><br />
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To sacrifice is to make a decision to release, to give away or to hand over something priced, valued, expensive or bearing deep sentimental worth for the sake of something more worthy or precious. Sacrificing is never easy, it can be the difficult to accept but it is inevitable. Sacrificing in a relationship is unending.<br />
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Sacrifices can be a product of love and should be done from the place of love and devotion.<br />
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Sacrifices should be made for a cause rather than a person. When the focus of the sacrifice is about the other person we put too much pressure on them (to recognize, to appreciate and to reciprocate when we want, how we want and the way we want), we hang it over their heads forever, we remind them of the cost of the sacrifice; what we gave up, who we left behind and where should have been. This can become unbearable for anyone and can cause a rift in the relationship. A good cause to sacrifice could be to help your relationship thrive.<br />
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Sacrifice is a discovery; each person’s action reflects his level of discovery. A sacrifice may not guarantee a successful outcome in your relationship.<br />
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<b>HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO?</b><br />
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<i>Will you do anything for love?</i> Sure we can sing about it, write it in a love note and even say it often but, when the time comes for us to live up to it many of us shrink--- we begin to redefine the word "anything".<br />
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‘Anything’ suggests that the cost and timing of the sacrifice makes no difference. As much as I applaud the courage, I also believe that everyone has a limit; a point they can't exceed or a price they consider too steep. <br />
For example; one may feel that giving a kidney is a little price another may not, changing a career for the one you love could seem normal to one and absurd to another.<br />
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The sacrifice is ultimately your choice!<br />
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Nobody can ideally tell you what you can or cannot sacrifice or where you should draw the line because it is and will always be your decision to make. Your sacrificial limit is self-determined; it depends on preference, personality and the dynamics of the said relationship. Identifying your limit can help you build a wholesome relationship.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-81831882744712084262015-03-17T10:07:00.000+01:002015-03-17T10:07:20.102+01:00THE BEAUTY OF REVENGE<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivCcQYIYQHi2WGjh6YSo_ieYszS_mdeDcW-RKtfCzTOMQNefzxHaz49hN02bZauAwAE6kNRGK6gl3VaF_C8odkfGfvKRS0GqXCZKSb_t1TRvNAQXyMXyORHOVds8-DDdWJTVHF3aSyopJl/s1600/revenge.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivCcQYIYQHi2WGjh6YSo_ieYszS_mdeDcW-RKtfCzTOMQNefzxHaz49hN02bZauAwAE6kNRGK6gl3VaF_C8odkfGfvKRS0GqXCZKSb_t1TRvNAQXyMXyORHOVds8-DDdWJTVHF3aSyopJl/s1600/revenge.jpg" /></a><br />
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We have heard sermons, read online posts, participated in discussions and conversations about the subject of <i>forgiveness</i> and <i>Revenge<b></b></i>.<br />
We have been told that the better road is forgiveness.<blockquote>The world would be a better place if we all forgave</blockquote>, they say.<br />
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We have heard it all, but, we are still yet to imbibe the culture of forgiveness. Why? Because <b>we do not want to forgive!</b><br />
As diabolical as that may sound, it is absolutely true. Not everyone is willing to forgive.<br />
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When some of us are hurt, we hold on to the anger, we nurse the pain, we fertilize the displeasure until it produces seeds of bitterness, un-forgiveness, and hatred. We don’t want to forget the pain and how it felt. Because if we do, then ‘’justice’’ (as we call it) would not prevail. We want to resent the person who hurt us until we can give them a taste of what they did and how they made us feel.<br />
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<b>Yes, we want REVENGE!!</b><br />
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So, how about we put a break in this ‘’forgiveness’’ talk and take a look at revenge for a second. <br />
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<i>To revenge is simply to retaliate or payback.<br />
Revenge is personal. It is not about justice, but evening scores. Revenge has no line, no rules; it drives you to hurt the person until you feel satisfied or until you are satisfied by their suffering.<br />
Revenge doesn’t only imply physical hurt or visible damage, it could be psychological, or emotional torture.<br />
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<b>IF FORGIVENESS IS OVER-RATED, TRY REVENGE</b><br />
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Irrespective of the perspective of the world about revenge, there are reasons why people want it and desire it.<br />
Revenge gives you the pleasure of seeing the other person suffer for what they have done. This satisfaction is tempting and it is what we seek first when we are hurt.<br />
Revenge proves to the person who hurt you, that you are powerful and not to be trifled (played) with.<br />
In some cases, revenge gives you a cause and a sense of purpose especially when the revenge is not immediate but plotted in advance.<br />
It gives the illusion of power over the person. You feel like you know how to get them, you are waiting for when to get them, you will come at them when they least expect it.<br />
Revenge is easier. Honestly, revenge costs less in the immediate. It is easier to pay-back; it is not as time consuming because it is a natural response.<br />
When you have finally revenged, it feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulder.<br />
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<b>WHAT YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW ABOUT REVENGE</b><br />
Though, it is cheaper in the immediate, <i>it is destructive in the end</i>.<br />
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The time spent in plotting revenge <i>steals the future from you</i>. <br />
While you are chasing the fulfillment of your purpose of revenge, you are probably over looking what happens after it is done.<br />
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<i>Revenge is a part of your character</i><br />
If you are a person that seeks revenge, it is not because you were hurt, but because it has always been who you are. You retaliate even for little things. Someone hits you, and you hit back, someone talks behind your back and you do the same. It did not happen in a day; you meditated upon it, until it became you.<br />
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<i>You hurt people also</i><br />
We are humans and that means we are not infallible. You will hurt or offend someone else and they would seek revenge for their pain too. It is the law of nature. What you sow, you will SURELY reap.<br />
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<i>Revenge is a jail house</i> <br />
All the while, you had been a prisoner of hurt, pain, anger, and bitterness and the funny thing is that you are the jailer. Un-forgiveness keeps you unhappy. <br />
You are the only one remembering, plotting, and re-living the pain and the other person is living their lives free. You are burdened, he/she is not. <br />
Sometimes, the offender doesn’t even remember what he or she has done anyway, isn’t it sad? Meanwhile, you are stuck in the rage; you can’t see the sun, incarcerated, no freedom, no home - an outcast.<br />
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<i>Revenge is never as good as you imagined</i>. <br />
It amazes me when I see movies of someone who sought revenge and was free, happy, and fulfilled in the end. That is a huge lie! <br />
There’s a feeling you get once you have done what you dreamed. It can be likened to a mirage, it feels like you are fulfilled, but truly you aren’t. At first a burden is lifted or so you think. Shortly, you’ll feel empty inside. You’d mostly like say “I thought I would feel much better’’ but I don’t. You got what you wanted, so why aren’t you happy and fulfilled?<br />
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<i>Revenge is not justice</i>. <br />
Justice implies the person was punished to the lawful proportion of the crime, but that never happens with revenge. Revenge is personal and emotional and these are factors that affect rationalism and good judgment. When seeking revenge, you will surely cross the ‘’just’’ line, this is because it is based on your satisfaction.<br />
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<i>Revenge has its consequences</i>. No one can take law into their hands and come out of it unhurt.<br />
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<b>REVENGE OR NOT?</b><br />
This is a decision for you to make. Revenge is enticing but destructive. The opposite however is difficult but fulfilling and redeeming. <br />
When you choose to forgive, you choose not to give your power away. You choose to reclaim the power that someone has over you.<br />
At the end of the day, revenge is not the best or only solution; it is the weakest and easiest way to go.<br />
Forgiveness however difficult is a walk for the strong. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-62535414062342573842015-03-14T14:13:00.000+01:002015-03-24T10:00:41.686+01:00WHEN LOVE GOES WRONG........JUSTIN SPEAKSHello LHD readers,<br />
There are two sides to every love story. Last month Janet shared her sad love story with us(click <a href="http://lovehappensdiary.blogspot.com/2015/02/when-love-goes-wrong.html">here</a> if you missed it) and we promised to get the other side of the story before we can offer our advice well....We finally got a hold of Justin and he was gracious enough to share his side of the story with us. Read his story below.<br />
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I believe in Love and the ability to show love to the people around me. I took notice of Janet a few months after school resumed in March. I was in my 400 level 1st semester when we met. At first, I didn’t think that there was anything special about her, but after we exchanged phone numbers and began communicating via Whatsapp, I discovered she was a gentle, loving and easy to please person. She laughed a lot, she was always happy especially when I did her favours. After a while, I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend; at that point with a smile, she accepted.<br />
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Getting into a relationship got us closer; my friends knew her and she knew all my friends. We also began to know a lot of things about each other. She told me how her ex-boyfriend used to hit her and, I also told her I used to have lots of girlfriends and that I still have some of them as friends. All I wanted to do was focus on my academics.<br />
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Janet knew I have more female friends than male friends and I thought she was cool with it. I help some of them out with school work and naturally care for them. I get along better with girls than with guys. I believe I am one of the best students in my department so other students come to me for help including girls.<br />
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After a while, I noticed a change in Janet’s attitude. She was always checking my phone and reading my chats. She began asking lots of questions about every girl she found around me which sometimes pissed me off. So many times, this caused an argument between us. She also developed a habit of giving me what I call ‘long speeches’ on how the other girls’ aim was to destroy our relationship, looking for something negative to say about them.<br />
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I got tired of her nagging and her demanding attitude that I began to lie to her. I tried talking to my guy friends but all they did was tease me; so, I found comfort in the arms of my other female friends that were less demanding. I continued to lie to Janet about my whereabouts. She noticed and began paying surprise visits to my place. On one of such occasion, she found me in bed with one of her classmates. She got angry and I didn’t waste time apologizing to her. I did everything to make her happy and in no time, she forgave me and our relationship continued.<br />
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Her wanting-to-know-all attitude got worse. She began to insist on following me wherever I went, I practically had no breathing space and I began to loose interest in her gradually because she was now more of a pain in the neck. <br />
One night, she called to tell me she would be going to sleep over at a friend’s place because she had malaria and needed care. I wished her a good night and promised to check on her the following morning. I was home trying to help a female classmate of mine with a tedious school assignment that dragged on into late night. Because it was too late for her to go home, I advised her to spend the night at my place. At about 11:35 pm, I heard a knock on my door and to my utmost amazement, it was Janet. She came in and found the girl fast asleep. Janet lost control of her emotions; she hit me, called me a coward and ran out of the house into the full moon light outside. I ran after her and immediately grabbed her arm. She wept and kept saying, ‘But Justin I love you, why are you doing this to me?’ At that moment, I got confused about what love really meant.<br />
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I felt since things were not going to change any time soon, I should just let her be and so because I didn’t want to hurt her because I knew she loves me, I asked her to see other guys maybe she would release her tight grip on me.<br />
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I see nothing wrong with the idea.<br />
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-44093034612150721402015-02-14T14:57:00.000+01:002015-02-14T14:57:24.399+01:00WHEN LOVE GOES WRONG<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxvcODIZAYaHUEoQWx80tz0j2KiTLv5NMvpkKktKSJ9o7gBm0QkngJYk4aj8qPgcy5cUUNihfHh4wT-Ew9gomDQ-KpIN9f5VkDuh56utS9q6UOTGi7EDaNcxf1f9af5jExHGfqu5rxKoIM/s1600/Broken-broken-heart-26794260-520-523.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxvcODIZAYaHUEoQWx80tz0j2KiTLv5NMvpkKktKSJ9o7gBm0QkngJYk4aj8qPgcy5cUUNihfHh4wT-Ew9gomDQ-KpIN9f5VkDuh56utS9q6UOTGi7EDaNcxf1f9af5jExHGfqu5rxKoIM/s320/Broken-broken-heart-26794260-520-523.jpg" /></a><br />
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Change is a constant thing. People change and even love itself can change from sweet to sour. I wish my story was like a romantic Indian movie but reality still takes its place. This is the story of my love for Justin gone wrong.<br />
Justin is not my first love but I have never loved anybody as much as I loved him. I met him at the school cafeteria where he paid for my lunch because the cashier didn’t have change. We exchanged contacts and voila my journey with Justin started. He was not so bad a person and one thing I liked about him was that he cared for me and surprised me with lots of gifts. My loved for him grew as the days rolled by. I thought I couldn’t survive in school without him, my friends would tell me ‘’ girl your boyfriend is on point’’. I couldn’t imagine my life without Justin anymore. Many times, I imagined our names together in bright neon lights saying ‘’ Justin and Janet forever. <br />
Nothing lasts forever as people will say. My first attempt at waking up from my dream world was when one of my friends came to me and disclosed that Justin was seriously asking her out. I couldn’t believe it and I got into a fight with my friend. All attempts to confirm from Justin failed because I felt he was just too good to do such a thing to me. I moved on with my relationship with him and didn’t worry about what my friend had said. Scenarios that could still wake me from my dreams presented itself. Scenarios like late night calls from other girls, giving me flimsy excuses for some of his actions, but still I believed every lie, because I loved him.<br />
The worst was when I caught him red-handed in bed with a girl from my class. This time I fully woke up to reality. I vowed never to forgive him, but he came apologizing. He was close to tears and promised it would never happen again. I forgave him because I loved him and we got back together. His attitude towards me changed. I could sense the change but I always let it slide out of my mind and pretend like nothing was wrong. <br />
Reality came crashing on me again when one night, I decided to go sleep over at his house, but another girl was already there to spend the night with him. I ran out of his house amidst tears. I just wanted to get it by a moving vehicle when he came after me once again apologizing. I still love Justin but why was he treating me like this. Even if he didn’t love me, my own love was enough for both of us I thought.<br />
He said he knows I love him very much and that even if he sees other girls, it is me he loves and want to spend the rest of his life with. The surprising thing was that he said if I wanted, I could still see other guys but it would be him I would still love. Now I ask myself, what kind of love is this? Should I remain only with Justin, or remain with him and see other guys like he suggested? or I should totally leave him and see other guys though I still love him?<br />
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As far as relationships go, the question never is if you will start a relationship because one day you definitely or eventually will.Infact when it concerns relationships, you most likely fall in one of these four positions; you are not in a relationship, you are in a relationship, you are about to exit a relationship or you are about to end a relationship. The more relevant question then becomes when is it appropriate to start a relationship?<br />
The question of when suggests that even though love happens, and one usually falls in love at the moment, being in a relationship is a different matter entirely. Being in a relationship is a decision you will live to appreciate or regret for as long as you live. It is one of those major decisions that you would continually review for the rest of your life therefore, it must be analyzed logically and based on critical and personal assessments.<br />
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Starting a relationship? I can start a relationship if i can answer these basic questions; when, where, how and with whom should I be in a relationship.<br />
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<i>We would address these four questions in subsequent posts next week.</i>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07295236656046499046noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1326322992076935188.post-26701772387888380142015-02-13T13:38:00.001+01:002015-03-16T22:09:33.558+01:00WELCOME!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOpKQcAD5AYL6xDXU5rAR6A3PIBvqgiLb4nc5CwJaOO9602F3cFRzfcGa8PA8nAM0CNCEQwTa_GwK8TwrgK1ChaI1o2v3DV6cNYhAtqD_YT0hlcwJ8YKi_XhnaSHpUI2ZKoNluu0lIfMcu/s1600/love+happens+logo+2.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOpKQcAD5AYL6xDXU5rAR6A3PIBvqgiLb4nc5CwJaOO9602F3cFRzfcGa8PA8nAM0CNCEQwTa_GwK8TwrgK1ChaI1o2v3DV6cNYhAtqD_YT0hlcwJ8YKi_XhnaSHpUI2ZKoNluu0lIfMcu/s320/love+happens+logo+2.jpg" /></a><br />
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