Saturday, February 14, 2015

WHEN LOVE GOES WRONG



Change is a constant thing. People change and even love itself can change from sweet to sour. I wish my story was like a romantic Indian movie but reality still takes its place. This is the story of my love for Justin gone wrong.
Justin is not my first love but I have never loved anybody as much as I loved him. I met him at the school cafeteria where he paid for my lunch because the cashier didn’t have change. We exchanged contacts and voila my journey with Justin started. He was not so bad a person and one thing I liked about him was that he cared for me and surprised me with lots of gifts. My loved for him grew as the days rolled by. I thought I couldn’t survive in school without him, my friends would tell me ‘’ girl your boyfriend is on point’’. I couldn’t imagine my life without Justin anymore. Many times, I imagined our names together in bright neon lights saying ‘’ Justin and Janet forever.
Nothing lasts forever as people will say. My first attempt at waking up from my dream world was when one of my friends came to me and disclosed that Justin was seriously asking her out. I couldn’t believe it and I got into a fight with my friend. All attempts to confirm from Justin failed because I felt he was just too good to do such a thing to me. I moved on with my relationship with him and didn’t worry about what my friend had said. Scenarios that could still wake me from my dreams presented itself. Scenarios like late night calls from other girls, giving me flimsy excuses for some of his actions, but still I believed every lie, because I loved him.
The worst was when I caught him red-handed in bed with a girl from my class. This time I fully woke up to reality. I vowed never to forgive him, but he came apologizing. He was close to tears and promised it would never happen again. I forgave him because I loved him and we got back together. His attitude towards me changed. I could sense the change but I always let it slide out of my mind and pretend like nothing was wrong.
Reality came crashing on me again when one night, I decided to go sleep over at his house, but another girl was already there to spend the night with him. I ran out of his house amidst tears. I just wanted to get it by a moving vehicle when he came after me once again apologizing. I still love Justin but why was he treating me like this. Even if he didn’t love me, my own love was enough for both of us I thought.
He said he knows I love him very much and that even if he sees other girls, it is me he loves and want to spend the rest of his life with. The surprising thing was that he said if I wanted, I could still see other guys but it would be him I would still love. Now I ask myself, what kind of love is this? Should I remain only with Justin, or remain with him and see other guys like he suggested? or I should totally leave him and see other guys though I still love him?

THIS RELATIONSHIP TALK



As far as relationships go, the question never is if you will start a relationship because one day you definitely or eventually will.Infact when it concerns relationships, you most likely fall in one of these four positions; you are not in a relationship, you are in a relationship, you are about to exit a relationship or you are about to end a relationship. The more relevant question then becomes when is it appropriate to start a relationship?
The question of when suggests that even though love happens, and one usually falls in love at the moment, being in a relationship is a different matter entirely. Being in a relationship is a decision you will live to appreciate or regret for as long as you live. It is one of those major decisions that you would continually review for the rest of your life therefore, it must be analyzed logically and based on critical and personal assessments.

Starting a relationship? I can start a relationship if i can answer these basic questions; when, where, how and with whom should I be in a relationship.

We would address these four questions in subsequent posts next week.

Friday, February 13, 2015

WELCOME!


Everybody wants to build lasting relationships, and the issue of love is something that we all desire and want in our lives but most of the time, we do not understand what it entails nor the sacrifices it requires.
LOVE HAPPENS DIARY,exposes us to the realities that we should know as well as the truth that governs love, relationships and living successfully single.
Join us as we embark on this journey of discovery together to understand the dynamics of loving relationships. Welcome to LOVE HAPPENS DAIRY!